Good Mood:
The New Psychology
of Overcoming Depression
Chapter 3
cont.
2) Mania is the state in which the comparison between actual and benchmark
states seems to be very large and positive, and often it is a state in which
the person believes that she or he is able to control the situation. It is
especially exciting because the person is not accustomed to positive
comparisons. Mania is like the wildly-excited reaction of a poor kid who has
never before been to a professional basketball game. In the face of an
anticipated or actual positive comparison, a person who is not accustomed to
making positive comparisons about his life tends to exaggerate its size and be
more emotional about it than people who are accustomed to comparing themselves
positively. 3) Dread refers to future events just as does anxiety, but in a state of
dread the event is expected for sure, rather than being uncertain as in
anxiety. One is anxious about whether one will miss the plane, but one dreads
the moment when one finally gets there and has to perform an unpleasant task. 4) Apathy occurs when the person responds to the pain of neg-comps by
giving up goals, so that there is no longer a neg- comp. But when this happens
the joy and the spice go out of life. This may still be thought of as
depression, and if so, it is a circumstance when depression occurs without
sadness -- the only such circumstance that I know of. The English psychiatrist John Bowlby observed a pattern in children aged 15
to 30 months of age who were separated from their mothers that fits with the
relationships between types of responses to neg-comps outlined here. Bowlby
labels the phases "Protest, Despair, and Detachment". First the child "seeks to recapture [his mother] by the full exercise
of his limited resources. He will often cry loudly, shake his cot, throw
himself about...All his behavior suggests strong expectation that she will
return."(16)
Then, "During the phase of despair...his behaviour suggests increasing
hopelessness. The active physical movements diminish or come to an end...He is
withdrawn and inactive, makes no demands on people in the environment, and
appears to be in a state of deep mourning."(17) Last, in the phase of detachment", there is a striking absence of the
behaviour characteristic of the strong attachment normal at this age...he may
seem hardly to know [his mother]...he may remain remote and apathetic...He
seems to have lost all interest in her"(18) So the child eventually removes
the painful neg-comps by removing the source of the pain from his thought. 5) Various positive feelings arise when the person is hopeful about
improving the situation--changing the neg-comp into a more positive comparison
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