Good Mood:
The New Psychology
of Overcoming Depression
Chapter 8
What Are Your Dimensions?
Everyone knows the old saw about seeing the
glass half empty or half full. Even truer is that you often can choose which
glass to look at, a glass which is full or one which is empty. Sadness and
depression usually are optional. That is, in most situations you can choose to
be happy or you can choose to be miserable.
An enormous variety of stimuli bombard us. We
pick-and- choose which of these stimuli to focus on. Some of the stimuli are
more insistent than others -- a stomach ache, for example, or a last-second
defeat of our favorite basketball team. But we are free to choose among the
majority of stimuli around us.
Choosing "Full Glass" Dimensions
The healthy-minded person picks out
characteristics -- let's call them "dimensions" -- on which she rates
well, and then argues to herself and to others that those are the most
important dimensions on which to judge a person. A slightly exaggerated
example: University faculty members who teach well but do no research argue
that teaching should be weighted most heavily in salary and promotion
evaluations; those who do much research and teach poorly argue instead that
research should be most influential in evaluations; people who are rather good
but not outstanding on both dimensions argue the virtues of well- roundedness.
(Those who are very good on both dimensions don't waste their time on
arguments like this one.)
As Collingwood put it, "The tailless fox
preached taillessness."(1) If a person cannot find some external objective
dimension of performance by which she rates well, one can always fall back on
piety and prayer-saying, in which any person can excel without talent or
training.
All this sounds amoral or even immoral, and
sometimes it is. Morality and intellectual honesty must constrain a decent
person in valuing various dimensions. And I certainly do not advise ignoring
all higher standards and proceeding solely on the basis of what is good for you
alone, which would be most cynical. But let us put aside that thorny issue
aside for now.
This, then, is how most people fight sadness
and depression by skillfully choosing the dimensions by which they judge
themselves, together with wisely selecting the standards on particular
dimensions against which they measure themselves.
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